Hi.
(takes big inhale and exhale)
I could not be more excited that you are reading this, that you have subscribed, and that you’re following this new part of my journey here.
I’ve been doing this for close to 10 years now. On and off. In many different seasons.
Seasons of burnout.
Seasons of lawyer bills.
Seasons of blended family bliss.
Seasons of hard relationships.
You’ve heard me share about how my childhood affected my experience as a stepmom.
- Finding my role.
- Being the new young stepmom. A 26-year-old marrying a 40-year-old with three kids.
- Navigating my relationship with the ex.
And how when I couldn’t find the type of stepmom support I was looking for, I decided to create it myself.
After years of work on me, my marriage, and my relationship with my stepkids, I created a framework that has now supported thousands of stepmoms in redefining their stepmom life as well. It's what i teach in my one-on-one coaching.
Truth is, I share things that most stepmom coaches don’t have the guts to tell you.
And it always comes back to doing the work on yourself, personal growth, and accountability.
Not because you’re the problem, but because ultimately you’re the only person you can control.
Where I Struggled
One of the biggest things I’ve struggled with in creating content over these years is wanting to do so much.
Wanting to write. (Blog)
Wanting to talk. (Podcast)
Wanting to support stepmoms. (Coaching)
Wanting to create community. (Membership)
Wanting to share what I’m loving and wearing. (Lifestyle content)
As I’m sure you know, as women, we often find ourselves wearing many hats trying to do it all.
What happens?
Burnout.
And when you’re trying to do everything, you can’t do any of it to your full ability.
Recently, I started writing on Substack. Raw, real, behind the scenes.
I love it.
But again, it became another silo of content that pulled me away from everything else.
I thought there had to be a place where I could combine everything and integrate it seamlessly.
Hello KASM Insider.
My App. My Chatroom. My Connection To You.
(Make sure you download my app here)
This New Season
My stepkids are out of the house now, my youngest stepson away at university. I am no longer in the trenches of stepmotherhood.
At one point, I thought this new season would make me irrelevant in this space.
Now I see that it actually brings so much clarity.
I can look back on my 14 years as a stepmom and see what worked, what didn’t, what mattered, what was worth it, and have the strategies to help pull stepmoms out of the trenches.
Turning 40 during this transition feels so aligned.
Because something really does shift when a woman turns 40.
The fucks to give are way less.
Priorities are clear.
What This KASM Insider Is About
This space isn’t just about being a stepmom or thriving in stepmotherhood.
It’s about not losing yourself in stepmotherhood.
Finding ways to deal with your stressors so they don’t bleed into every area of your life, impacting your ability to show up as the woman you truly want to be.
It’s about your new stepmom era.
Your glow up.
Strategies to reconnect with your partner, feel more confident, and create a life that feels good.
And yes, how to build a wardrobe and create systems and lifestyle habits so that you feel fucking good about yourself.
Because that matters too.
A Place For Real Conversations
This is also a place for you to connect with other stepmoms who are going through the same things you are.
Some posts will be about stepfamily dynamics.
Some will be personal reflections.
Some will be behind the scenes of the podcast.
Some will be links to what I'm wearing, and strategies for feeling your best.
Some will simply be the things women are thinking about but don’t always say out loud.
All of it real.
Welcome.
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